3 ways being busy is keeping you stuck on the hamster wheel of life and how you can start to slow it down and get off
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Do you ever feel like you’ve got so much to do but you're never moving forward? Like you’re on a hamster wheel going around and around and around and nothing ever changes?
Here’s 3 ways that being busy is holding you back from being calmer and happier and what you can do to change that.
You don’t have time to think about who you actually are
Life changes us everyday. Whether that's an old lady muttering obscenities at you under her breath because she thinks you didn't give her a wide enough berth on the path as you walked past (actually happened to a friend of mine this morning), or a genuine smile from the postie as he drops off your letters. These interactions and your view of them have the power to determine how your day goes. Throw in a couple of other big life events that change us- loss, birth, redundancy to name just a few and it's not a surprise that we feel disconnected from who we are.
I think it’s fair to say that events of the last year have changed us all. And perhaps you’re struggling to know where you fit, what you like, who you are?
These feelings can be quite overwhelming and staying busy keeps them at bay and lets you carry on with the status quo.
Even though you know deep down you have changed, beyond measure.
You fill your head with lists, tasks and things to remember and do, so you dont have to stop and acknowledge those unsettling feelings of ‘Who the fuck am I now?’
This adds to those feelings of disconnectivity and means you cling to the things you do know. Work, looking after kids, doing all the things for everyone else and guess what your situation is compounded. You feel trapped in this cycle of busyness and you’ve got no fucking clue how to get out.
Stifles your creativity
Whether or not you consider yourself a creative person, staying busy is killing any chance of you developing or finding your creative skills. There is so much joy to be had in creating something from scratch.
I see it radiating out of my clients' faces everyday, when they've grown a pink tomato from seed, made a spring wreath out of flowers they’ve grown in their garden or created an area in their garden that's just for them to relax in amongst scented flowers and the lazy hum of wildlife. You deserve that joy too and the one way bullet train through life that you’re currently on with its bare walls and soulless carriages ain’t gonna help you get there.
Right now you’re telling yourself you're too busy to grow a garden. Which incidentally is one of the most powerful ways to connect with your creative side and give you that headspace to allow your busy brain a break.
But I’m here to tell you gardening doesn't have to take hours, in fact the way I teach it, you can find calm and headspace through mindful gardening in just 5 minutes a day.
Its damaging your mental and physical health
There’s this notion in society that being busy is something to be lauded, that it's somehow to be worn as a badge of honour. But who is giving you that badge? Because I sure as hell haven't ever received one.
Is it your friends? When they ask you how you are and you say ‘I’m good, busy. How are you?’ And they reply with ‘Yeah good thanks, busy’. There's this subconscious confirmation that busy is the ONLY way to be.
I long for the day that we all say, ‘Do you know what, I’m really great, I've been giving myself time for me everyday and I feel fucking fabulous for it’.
Because do you know what? Being busy actually makes you burnout. Trust me I know because that's exactly what happened to me.
I worked myself into the ground. I would finish everyday absolutely exhausted and bloody miserable. I would be in tears most days, my stress and frustration needing some sort of release. I was done in. A shell of who I once was.
If you’re reading this it's likely you’re where I was or at least on the way to it.
You’d like to make a change but you’ve got no energy to actually do it and it all seems pretty overwhelming. The opposite of what you need right now.
But, given what you’ve read here, do you think you could find just 5 minutes in your busy day to start slowing down, connecting with Mother Nature and yourself? 5 minutes to make yourself, your health and your life a priority?
If the answer is yes then let's chat because I'd love to support you to step off that hamster wheel and live a life that is joyful, connected and calm.